Fear of being rejected by a girl is normal and happens to everyone. In fact, when we see a girl who does not know and with whom we want to start a conversation, arise three types of fears: fear of rejection, fear of public speaking and fear of self-fulfilling prophecy. These fears have a great resemblance to each other as they are generated by your own mind and for reasons that can be both external and internal. For example, if you're swimming in the sea and you see a shark fin comes up to you, it is natural to feel fear and it helps your body stay alert and react quickly and effectively to the external threat that occurs . However, the pain you feel when approaching a girl you do not know comes from within. At the time of the cave, if you approached a woman who did not know and that bad luck belonged to another man, was very likely that this would create a confrontation or duel to the death for the simple fact of having gone to neighbor's wife.
This evolutionary mechanism (fear) that prevented to make that mistake in those times and has no practical use today. But unfortunately this is still in our minds. Another example: When you approach a girl, she rejects you, and immediately your mind starts to tell you: "I told you she was going to recharzar, you're not good enough for her, look what you've done it now your friend laugh at you. " That is, do not you approach a girl not afraid of being rejected but for fear to face and accept your own actions and mistakes. This is what is known as the fear of self-fulfilling prophecy. How can you overcome these fears? TIP # 1. So the more you expose them, the more certain you of yourself.
When you go out with friends and find a girl like you get close to talk to her. If she rejects you, do not worry because she will not remember you or will know who you are. Besides, what's the worst that can happen? At most you can say that she is not interested. It continues to make approaches until you no longer feel that rejection affects you. No matter what your friends laugh at you. The difference is that you are able to do and they do not. TIP # 2. You must also have positive expectations when approaching to talk to a girl. That is, instead of thinking they're going to refuse, why not try to think that she is going to accept and that will be interested in you?. This has a lot in your behavior and the girls immediately noticed. TIP # 3. To overcome the fear of public speaking, it is more practical to talk to any person with whom they have contact in your everyday life. For example, when you go to the supermarket, begins a conversation with the cashier. When you're lining up to buy a coffee talk with the person next to you. So little by little you'll get used to talking to strangers while you served as training for when you're at a party or social gathering and find a girl you like, do not be afraid to talk to her. Andy Bacano offers free advice to help you not only to bind but also to get the girl of your dreams. Visit their website for more information.